"Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference" - Robert Frost

February 19, 2014

Chapter 11: Rapport (NLP for Success)

Rapport is not report guys, hehehe.
Rapport is a condition where (as said in the book) trust, harmony and cooperation are built in a relationship.

Rapport condition between someone and the other one is usually pictured with the phrase "on the same wavelength".

You know when you go out with a good friend of yours and you sit somewhere and you both go talking for hours, doing eye contact and feel comfort with each other?
That's when rapport happens.

When you laugh together with your brother/sister because of the jokes you guys throw to each other?
That's also when rapport happens.

I think it's obvious to see by now that rapport process needs two or more people to happen. We all need to know what rapport is, what rapport can do, and how we can make rapport happen.

It's not just about getting what we want, though. NLP is developed to make things easier, yes, but it's not manipulating unless we intend to make it so.
Put it simple: as human, we need to interact with other people, right? NLP is the method to make us interact better, and rapport is one of NLP's pillars.


Matching
Matching is when we observe people -- and then we behave like them.
for example: sitting in the same position, or using the same body language.


Mirroring
Mirroring is matching someone's behavior -- precisely.

Beware!
Never let the people you do "matching" and "mirroring" to, know that you are doing those things to them. You don't know what kind of respond you might get. Do it slowly, approximately 20-30 seconds after they behave something.

We can match...
the whole body, upper part of body, lower part of body, the way s/he moves, his/her gesture, his/her face expression, his/her eye movement, and even the way someone breathe!


Well then, there are actually more rapport methods but I think these wo are the most important ones. If you do want to know more, go google for NLP thingy! :3


Happy practicing, guys!

Chapter 10: Sensory Acuity and Calibration (NLP for Success)

It's Feb 19th, right? Lat time I wrote here it was Feb 11th, so how the week has been? :D
Well, if you wanna know, mine has been pretty amazing. I'll tell you later why. :3
I get a bit confused on what kind of introduction paragraph I should write here. Every thinkable intro has been used, and well, yeah, this is me trying a new one.

Anyway, do you guys still remember my post about Eye Accessing Cues here? And do you still remember when I mentioned about Sensory Acuity here?

February 11, 2014

Chapter 9: Anchor

Hmm? What? You wanna know what anchor is? You do? Seriously?
Well, let me tell you...

Chapter 8: States and Emotions (NLP for Success)

What is state?
According to Colins English Dictionary, "state" means "conditions of a person". In NLP it means a person's mental and physical condition when taking action.

Let's explore the idea of states.
Go inside your body and mind, what are you feeling right now?
Happy because you're about to meet a friend whom you haven't met for a while?
Sad because you haven't read John Grisham's latest novel?
Blessed with all the things that have happened to you all these freakin years?
Whatever it is, whether it's sad, happy, tired, blissful, confidence, etc--it's a state.

State changes within time. Mostly we experience many states in a day. Some are what we experience positively, and some are negative ones. Sometimes we don't even get the chance to name the state. We only know that we are in "good mood" or "bad mood".

Our state can help us to reach what we want--but it can also fail to help us, too. Most people think that their states just can't be changed--sometimes they don't even know such thing does exist--that everything happens around them is none of their control.

That's sad, terribly sad, because the fact is, we can control our states! We can control our feelings yes yes :3
The first step is to be aware of our state at one time.
Does it make you feel good?
Does it help you get closer to what you want?

If the state is good, you don't have to change it.
But if it's bad--means you don't get benefits from that state, easy, you can change i. Changing your perspective might be one good idea to start.

I hope your states can make you live your best life. Ciao! :)

February 7, 2014

Chapter 7: Well-Formed Outcome (NLP for Personal Success)

Good day, dear friends. This is also a good chapter to be read so you bnetter read well ;)

In chapters before, we've known the fact that "outcome" is the result or consequences of the actions we take. Outcome can be what we want to happen/achieve, but it can also be the things that we don't want to happen/achieve.
Therefore, in NLP, there's a particular term called "desired outcome" -- which is, as written in the book, a central part of NLP.

Chapter 6: Values and Beliefs (NLP for Personal Success)

Here comes the subject in NLP that I'm interested in the most! Yes! Check it out! :)

Values and Beliefs -- What are They?

When Bella was just a little girl, she once got scratched by a cat that she started to think that cat is scary. She got scratched second time when she was 10, and her brother also got scared when trying to feed some cats near their house. Because of the two recent incidents above, she then started believing that cat is a wild animal.
That's belief.

February 2, 2014

Chapter 5: Meta Programs (NLP for Personal Success)

The heck is Meta Programs, Nad??!
Whoa haha, easy guys haha I'm about to share it ;)

So, Meta Programs is how NLP explains about differences of human's way of thinking.
Some people love to think things generally, while the other one love details. Some see the beauty of an idea, some see how that one idea can ruin everything.

Chapter 4: Submodality (NLP for Personal Success Part Four)

Hola amigo! We've come to chapter 4 I suppose. Hahaha so here we go! ;)

In NLP there's deeper version of representational system called "submodality". You see, as we've learned on chapter three, there are five representational systems: Visual, Auditory, Kinaesthetic, Olfactory and Gustatory. Each representational system has their own details, it's what submodality is all about.