"Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference" - Robert Frost

March 7, 2014

Chapter 14: Frames, Framing, Reframing and Parts (NLP for Success)

It's chapter for-teen. Let's make it fast.
So, where to start?

 Frame, in NLP, is one of our ways to filter our internal perception about the world. Frame works unconsciously. Then what exactly frame is?

For example:
Anna frames the smell of KFC's fried chicken as "yummy".

Some people frame that having no money "sucks".
Bookworms frame that reading is "fun".

In other word, frame is how we label our experiences.

There are types of frames. We've discussed some of them in the previous chapters (Outcome Frame, Ecology Frame and Evidence Frame), so why not learning about the other ones? :)
Here are them:

As-If Frame
It can also be called as "visualization" By using this frame, we can imagine what it's like to have our mission accomplished, as if our outcome has been achieved, as if we've reached our dreams, so that we can step out of our empowering beliefs and live with the empowering ones.
Contrast Frame
This frame is used when we want to make difference(s) by our actions. Yep just like what Jason Mraz says, "I don't wanna be someone who walks away I'm here to stay and make the difference that I can make"~~

Agreement Frame
In an interaction between two people or more, there's always chance(s) that there's gonna be discussion, debate, or even argumentation. We can use this frame if we want to make an agreement (read: solution) for all.
Backtrack Frame
For example when you meet  new people and there's just so many of them that you find it a bit hard to even remember their names, you can try using this frame. Right after they introduce theirselves you can repeat (backtrack) calling their names while looking into them. Oh ya I almost forgot, by doing this you also build rapport to them.

Framing happens naturally. A frame doesn't have any meaning unless you give it one.
As we live, we have framed so many things, so many people and so many experiences.
Some of them are the frames that empower us.
Some of them just don't.
If there's a frame that holds us back from getting the resources we need to achieve our outcomes, let's remember that we can reframe it.

We can't change what has happened. But we can change our perception about it.

About Parts...
When we frame and reframe, we actually use our "parts", too.
Parts can sometimes stop operating itself (whether it's still needed or not), and Parts can also keep operating, eventhough we don't need it anymore.

It's like apps in Android. Once we need it, we install it, And when we don't need it (or if it even bothers us), we can uninstall it. 

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