Habit 4 opens our mind that it's much more better to think win-win --to understand that everyone can win-- in every situation.
Habit 5 teaches us to have a bigger heart to understand first, to listen first... then to be understood.
Habit 6: Synergize is more about combining the previous two habits to achieve greater goals than to just achieve each of both sides' goals.
What is synergy, anyway?
Synergy is 1 + 1 = 3 or more.
At first synergy may seem like something endangering, it's like we throw idea the Habit 2 concept.
Synergy seems like "go with the flow". But if we throw away the insecure thoughts that surround us, and choose to have fun with the process of synergize, we'll find that synergize actually brings us toward where we want to be.
Synergy is the funnest and most empowering part in interaction. It brings us out of our comfort zone, and we don't know what's gonna come out from the process.
Synergy gives us the Third Alternative we thought doesn't exist.
To experience synergy, we must be willing to go out of our comfort zone, to open our mind for any kind of possibility.
In every thing that we do, especially when we interact with other people, there are actually two kinds of power: propulsive power and retaining power.
Propulsive power is usually positive, logical and wise.
While retaining power is negative, emotional and usually not logical.
These powers are like yo-yo effect. while the other push us up, the othe rone pulls us down.
In life there will be the kinds of people. Of course, the retaining kind of people are freakin' annoying.
To work with this kind of people we need to apply Habit 4 and 5, and then we can (hopefully) create synergy.
Synergy is how the universe works. We want it, and then that something comes to us--and synergy is the "car". Err... I mean it's more like the driving process that drives us to the place we want to be.
Covey said, "Is it possible that synergy will create a new life script for the next generation--a life script that is more customized with service and contribution, and reducing protective, hostility and ego; a life script that is more opened, more trusting, more giving, and not defensive, not protective and not political; a script that is more loving, more care and not possessive and judging?"