"Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference" - Robert Frost

November 20, 2014

What We Mean By Success (Life is What You Make It Chapter Ten)

Have you ever realized that when most people talk about success, it is mostly related to how much money you make? It's like, symbolically, success is a synonim for high-salary.

While it's not really wrong to look for money (not at all!), Peter Buffett suggests us to re-define success.
He says, success comes from within. It is related to who we are and what we do. It comes from mysterious combination of skills, passion, hard work and commitment. Real success is something that we can achieve personally, the one which value is decided by ourselves.

And why do we let the outer world --the one that is clarly uncontrollable and unstable-- decide, not only how much our income is, but also how much we are actually worth?

Finding the fulfilling life--creating it--is not easy. To live it, we must face the ambiguity and our own insecure feeling(s). We must make peace with others' hopes.

Adopting our own version of success with the now-trending one needs thoughts and character strength.
This is true, once we know what our definition of success is, we won't get easily tricked, or seduced by others' versions of success.

The world can give us reward, or hold it back, that's the world's business. But, the world can't give the valuation about the fundamental value and validity from what we are trying to reach, that's our business.

Be Careful With What You Wish For...

...they might just come true.

Sometimes we act like we know what we want.
Sometimes it is really the thing that we want.
But sometimes, if not most of the time, it's actually the thing we thought we want.

And don't forget the pressure of the society's paradigm of success, of what it is that we should want, have, or just simply do, sometimes gets us biased from what we actually want.

Deciding what our wants, our wishes are, can be really challenging sometimes.

Peter Buffett thinks that most people always go after the next wish, after the previous one is completed.
But then, maybe, as he explains further, the happier people --who are most balanced with their lives-- are the people who acknowledge, respect and enjoy their granted wishes.

Having wishes is not the same as getting prepared. This happened to Buffett himself when he wanted to grow his music into the next level. He wanted to make music for movies.
So then his wish was finally granted when Kevin Costner was about to make a movie, Dances With Wolves, which accidentally, had the same theme as Buffett's second album's. Eventually it turned out that Buffett wasn't ready enough to make a grand-scale of music, so then he just made one soundtrack, Firedance, which fortunately was quite successful.

A well-organized preparation demands a hard work at first--facing many difficulties that may happen, considering carefully the unseen dangers. This early consideration, in time, will create mind clarity. Mind clarity enables us to show --to ourselves and to those who we work for-- that we're really ready to do the given job. This kind of preparation that creates our own self-confidence.

Doesn't it make more sense if a granted wish is considered as a beginning of something? The true happiness and the true achievement is within seeing where our wish can lead us.



But then again, what if our wishes don't come true? What if we don't get what we want?

When a wish is not granted--when we don't get what we think we want--we are forced to look ahead further, to think harder and deeper about what we really, really want, what really makes us happy. Sometimes, an ungranted wish is a blessing a disguise.